5 Pieces of Advice You Never Listen To, But Really Should

You know when you can see someone ruining their life, and no matter how many times you try to tell them what they’re doing is wrong, or bad, or they’ll regret it, they just won’t listen?

Have you ever realized that, a lot of the time, YOU ARE the one who’s buggering everything up?Read More »

19 Things I’ve Learned at 19

It’s my birthday!! Shower me with gifts and love! Love me! Kidding. But yeah, I’m 19 today (scary Mary), and I feel old. 

Like, I know I’m not old. I’m actually very young. I’ve loads of living left to do. But, like every other entitled and narcissistic millenial, I feel like I have a wealth of experiences to draw on at my young age.

So, here are the 19 things I’ve learned at the ripe old age of 19. You’re welcome.

1. Always Give More Than You Get

Follow this, and you’ll never be in the wrong again. Always give 110%, and you can be sure that when things go downhill, you don’t have to worry about yourself, because you did everything you possibly could

2. Cover Your Arse

Similar to the last point, but honestly will save you so much time and arguments. Just do everything the first time, and make sure you think of everything before charging in.

3. If Possible, Take the High Road

It makes you look better. But, if they really hurt you, aint nothing wrong with getting it off your chest.

4. Don’t Be Petty

It’s ugly. You’re better than that.

5. Drink More Water!!!

6. Worrying About Money Won’t Give You More Money

Unless you are at critical situation, stop worrying about money. You’re so young. What the fuck.

7. Problem? Have a Bath

8. More Problems? Go Outside

Fresh air: it works. Who knew?

9. Laugh At Yourself, and Everyone Else Will Laugh With You 

In an awkward or embarrassing situation? Laugh it off. It’ll make everyone else comfortable, and make yourself feel better when they’re laughing with you, rather than at you.

10. Stretch More

Trust me.

11. Change Your Bedding, Do Some Dusting, and Hoover More

A clean environment makes for a clean and healthy mind.

12. Stop Playing Yourself Down To Everyone

You are interesting, you are funny, and you are pretty. I mean it. You know it, so prove it.

13. It’s Better to Be ‘Silly-Funny’ Than ‘Mean-Funny’

14. You Will Never Regret Making More Effort, You Will Only Regret Making Less

15. Stop Thinking Everything Means Something. It Doesn’t.

Sometimes shit happens, and we have to just accept it. It doesn’t have an almighty meaning, and it doesn’t count towards your karma-points. Learn from things, and move on. Stop making meaning when there isn’t any.

16. Stop Thinking Everything You Do Has To Mean Something. It Doesn’t.

You want to eat 3 cheeseburgers in a row? Go for it. You want to get a tattoo of a panda holding a rifle? Why the hell not? You want to write a book about what it’s like to be YOU? Do it. Not everything has to be Big and Meaningful.

17. Remember Your Age

You’re young. Stop thinking like an 80 year old. Do something stupid. Make mistakes. It’s okay.

18. You’re Allowed To Be Sad Sometimes

19. But Being Sad Will Get You Nowhere

Get help. Do things. Make connections. Nothing is worth feeling like it’s the end of the world, but having to smile anyway.

And there you have it. My impartial bits of wisdom that I have selflessly shared with you lot so you don’t make the same mistakes as me. But at the same time, what do I know? A year from now I could be making another one of these posts and say exactly the opposite of everything I’ve just said so… do whatever you want. Or something.

Honestly though, thank you for following me on this little blog for as long as you have, even if you haven’t for very long. I’m still working at this blogging thing (and generally this ‘life’ thing) and doing this makes things a lot more fun and interesting. I look forward to the next year of my life carrying on with this blog and meeting more of you lovely people.

Here’s to the next year (THE LAST ONE OF BEING A TEENAGER).

Jess x

My Bullet Journal // 2016

The Bullet Journal has become more and more well-known over the internet in the past few years, after digital product designer Ryder Carroll first implemented the idea, in an attempt to organize his life in a way that normal planners and diaries just couldn’t cut.

Since then, the idea of the Bullet Journal (or ‘BuJo’ (yeah, I don’t like it either)) has been changed, adapted and turned around by each and every person who has adopted the initial idea, in an attempt to create something specifically for them, in a time where phone calendars and reminders rule.

I’ve been meaning to make this post for such a long time, but my reluctance to let anyone see just how unorganized my life is kind of stopped me. Because, in reality, the whole point of what I’m about to show you is to try and organize my life. And I’ll be honest, it has not gone to plan.

So, as a disclaimer, to anyone who has, or is thinking about creating a Bullet Journal for themselves, it does not have to be perfect and beautiful like those people on Pinterest. If you’re a perfectionist who can also draw, and you want your journal to be beautiful and artistic, that’s great. But for most of us out here, a simple, personalized planner is all we need. It’s all about who you are, and what works for you (and also how much time you have to make each page of your journal like the Mona Lisa).

So, I’m about to show you what my bullet journal (if you can call it that? I don’t even really use the bullet points…) looks like, how I (try to) use it, and maybe it can give you productivity nerds out there a bit of inspiration.

I started my “Bullet Journal” in May this year, so I’ve had a fair amount of time to get into the rhythm of things. I started attempting to create this journal after seeing countless Buzzfeed posts and pictures on Tumblr of beautifully organized and decorated planners that I would kill to be able to make.

I also started because, while I used PoundlLand weekly planners throughout college to record homework and exams, etc, I wanted a place that I could plan my weeks, but also a place to record my random thoughts. Before then, I’d been using countless other, extra notebooks to write down to-do lists, plan blog posts and other little things I needed reminding about. I found myself getting lost in a sea of them, and never actually remembering what I needed to, and accomplishing those tasks. I thought that, if I created this all-encompassing diary, I’d just have one thing to carry around, and that would be that.

Of course, I never stick to these ideas 100%, but using the BuJo has been incredibly useful when I have to remind myself of something for the coming weeks, and writing weekly to-do lists (far better than daily, as I never have enough to do daily to even warrant a list).

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For my first Bullet Journal, I decided to use a notebook that my best friend Sophie bought me for my 18th birthday. I’m not sure where it’s from, but I thought it was perfect. It’s A5, lined (which I prefer) and just really simple and cute, with this shiny gold pattern on the front and back. It’s super discreet, which I like (being very secretive about my many many notebooks).

So, when I first started trying to make my bullet journal, I downloaded and printed a bunch of blank month-calendar things, and stuck them into the page at each month. Here’s what it looked like:

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I really loved this, as it gave me a chance to be creative with making flip-out parts, and decorating the blank templates. However, eventually I felt a bit restricted size-wise with my cutouts. Admittedly, I could have just printed them a bit bigger, but I fancied a change, And that brings me to how I set out my months now:

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I find this way a lot more spacious, and it also gives me a lot more creative freedom than the cutouts. However, if I wanted to go back to being more minimal and neat in my approach (which is just so not me), I think I’d stick with the print-outs.

Then onto the weeklies. These are a lot less pretty, and a lot more ad-hoc, unfortunately for those neat-freaks out there. Because I’m a disorganized mess, I tend to write out each day of the week, and the date, every month in advance, using a two page spread. On one side, I’ll write the dates and things that I need to do/remember/or what’s happening on that day. Opposite this, I’ll write my weekly to-do’s, which tend to be extremely varied.

 

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While this method might make some of those who like prettiness cry (I’m sorry, I’m not artistic or neat), this method works for me. It’s quick and easy to update and check when I need, it allows me to jot down random thoughts as well, such as blog post ideas and when I might post it, and just works for me.

As you might have noticed, I don’t actually use any of the real Bullet Journal techniques, such as trackers, bulleting events and such differently, but that is just me. It’s the eay I work, and I don’t have the patience to sit around faffing with decoration and trackers. But if that would work for you, then please do give it a go!

There are a few more little bits I wanted to share with you that I included in my journal over the months, and one of which was my revision timetable.

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Now I cannot, for the life of me, stick to a timetable like this. It didn’t work for this one, nor has it worked for any others I might try to stick to. I’m a waffly, flaky person (much like an ice cream cone), and I can’t stick to schedules or anything, because honestly life is just too short. But, I was really proud of this page and this idea when I was studying for my A Levels, and it might offer some inspiration to those who may need it this year.

Another little, more personal part, of my Bullet Journal is my ‘Memories’ pages. This is one I’ve actually stuck with since the beginning, and I’m really liking how they turn out. At the end of every month, I write down the previous month’s main events (generally the ones that made me happy, but if something big happens, I’ll still record it). I started doing this because, at the end of 2015, so much had happened that I wanted to remember, but I knew I never would just from memory alone. So, along came the memories page. I’ll sit and have a rethink over what’s been going on, read through my previous pages in the journal, and just chuck them onto a pretty page, with some drawings to remembers (cause, come on, they’re cute!). Here’s the one I made for March this year:

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And there you have it. That’s my (not so) Bullet Journal, 2016. I hope no one cried at how messy it is, and I hope it’s given some that little push they needed to start their own.

I was thinking of making this a regular type of post, maybe seasonal, so that I can post updates on things that have changed in my journalling system, and any tips and tricks I’ve found. If that’s something you’d be interested in, like or comment on this post!

Thanks again, hope everyone’s October is off to a spooky start!

Jess

Summer Favourites! 2016

It’s finally here. To quote Panic! at the Disco, summer’s on its deathbed. It’s over. The warm weather may remain, the we might see the sun for a few more weeks but… in the eyes of every one around: summer is over. About bloody time. For some reason this summer has dragged for me? Anyone else know what I’m on about? No? I mean I’ve loved the sun and the heat, but I’m ready for my jumpers now. Okay?

So, as the end of summer is upon us, and all the young people sigh as they pack their bags for school, I thought I’d share with you some of my favourite bits and bobs that I’ve collected over the summer months. I’m in no way a beauty blogger or a fashion…y person. But I personally love reading and watching posts like this, so I’ll spare you the waffle and get straight into it!

Make-up

Makeup Revolution Sculpt and Contour Kit 

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My friend Sophie actually bought this for me as it came free in a Superdrug 3 for 2 and I definitely don’t regret letting her! (Thanks Soph, love you) If you’re anything like me and are an absolute dunce when it comes to make-up, this is perfect. It’s super cheap at £3.50, and comes with three shades of face powder: bronzer, highlighter and blush. I love the blush and highlight shades, they were perfect for summer and for my holiday, both with flecks of gold. And, while the formulas aren’t perfect, they’re definitely worth the bargain. Recommend!

New Look Pure Colour Matte Liquid Lip 

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Now this is the first and currently only liquid lipstick that I own, so I can’t say much in terms of comparison, but I really love this product. Again, it’s perfect for summer. I chose the shade ‘Sweet Rose’, which was lighter than I originally thought but turned out well! The formula definitely is long lasting, it takes a good long scrub from a make-up wipe before it even budges. While it is a matte lipstick and therefore is drying, it’s definitely not debilitating, and if you can pull this colour off (I don’t know if I can tbh) then it’s perfect for a summer evening.

Books

Rainbow Rowell – Fangirl

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Okay so I know I’m a million years late with this one and every teenage girl under the sun has read Fangirl but I decided to take it to Athens with me and it was so perfect! I’ve read Rainbow’s Eleanor and Park previously and thought it was good, but not amazing. But I was so pleasantly surprised by Fangirl that I actually started re-reading it after I finished it on the plane home. I fell in love with literally all the characters and, as a previous serial fangirl myself, I can definitely relate! Love love love.

Nicola Yoon – Everything Everything

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I actually read Everything Everything a lot earlier this year, but I could not resist including it in this post. It is probably one of my favourites this year, and the phrase is overused but I was hooked from start to finish. I’m a lover of a quick easy read, and this was that, and more. Towards the end, I was literally gripped to the pages, and the twists and the sense of danger and caution you feel for protagonist Maddy is one of a kind. Everyone should read this book. I’m not kidding.

Movies

Suicide Squad

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Yes, I know what you’re thinking. How could this be a favourite? How could you consider this a favourite, Jess? What’s wrong with you? Well, readers. I will bloody well tell you.It may have something to do with the fact that this is the only new film I’ve actually watched this summer. That is part of it. But, at the risk of vocalising an unpopular opinion, I actually quite liked this movie. I liked the feel of it, as weird and emo as it was. I loved the characters (apart from Leto’s Joker.. we won’t even go there with how appalling it was) and I loved the visuals. I just enjoyed it. Shoot me.

Clothing

Bomber Jacket – New Look

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Unfortunately, the last few items won’t have links to purchase due to them no longer being sold, being sale items from the beginning of summer. Sorry! But this first one I am literally obsessed with. I found the last one left in my local New Look on a random trip, in my exact size and it was clearly fate. I was meant to be with this jacket. It’s legit. It’s so silky and light-weight and perfect for summer, for something to chuck on and it’s definitely in style and has been for a while.

Light wash jeans – New Look

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These were another sale item, spontaneously found in my size, last of their kind. Sorry for being that annoying person. But, I’ve loved these jeans for the summer. The colour and style is very me at the moment and they actually look slightly ankle-swingery on me!! As someone who is very, very short, it’s a struggle to find jeans that don’t ruffle up at the ankle like some kind of weird elephant leg. But these don’t! And I love them for that. Also, they make my butt look good. (Always a bonus).

Accessories

Purse – Primark

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This summer I’ve been slightly obsessed with the colour blue. If it’s in a shop and it’s blue, I’ve probably considered buying it. Don’t ask me why, I’ll be the last to know. Maybe it has something to do with my first car being navy. Anyway. I saw this purse floating around the fitting rooms when I was at work one day and made it my mission to find it on my lunch break. It’s exactly the style of purse I love, skinny and a single zip. And it’s pretty. This will definitely outlast the summer and at £4 (full price), I really can’t complain.

 

And there it is! My first ever favourites post! It was fairly long so I’m sorry and well done if you’ve stayed for the whole thing. Please like and give me a comment if you enjoyed the post and if there’s stuff I can improve on for the next one!

I hope you all have had a fantastic summer and are looking forward to the next part of your lives, whether that’s school, university or just another great autumn. Til next time.

Jess x