Meditation is supposed to be this be-all and end-all for living your best life. At least that’s what I’ve heard, anyway.
I am one of the most stubborn people in the world when it comes to getting myself out of a rut. Continue reading “How To Find Inspiration Without Travelling the World”
You know when you can see someone ruining their life, and no matter how many times you try to tell them what they’re doing is wrong, or bad, or they’ll regret it, they just won’t listen?
Have you ever realized that, a lot of the time, YOU ARE the one who’s buggering everything up?Continue reading “5 Pieces of Advice You Never Listen To, But Really Should”
So, last week, I turned nineteen. It was a great day. I spent the morning with Connor and his family, relaxing, before coming home to spend the afternoon with mum and pampering myself before holding a surprise birthday party for my mum, which went better than I could have expected. I ended the night by going from the party to a club in town and then forgetting my door key when I got home.
And it was great.
But really, in all honesty I’m excited about being this age. When I was a kid all I wanted was to be older, and now that I am older and I can literally do… anything I want. It’s almost debilitating. I can do anything. So.. to counter that… I do nothing.
So, to celebrate the next year of my life, I’ve come up with a list of somewhat realistic, and somewhat ridiculous, things that I’d like to do by this time next year…
1. Stop being afraid of of making phone calls
And actually learn how to make a phone call in a busy office… no one is listening, and I need to remember that.
2. Save over £1000
Which I am well on the way of achieving! Result!
3. Go on a city break
Another one. Athens and Prague in 2016 were some of the best experiences I’ve ever had, and having the independence to be wandering the world without adult supervision is something that I can’t wait to experience more.
4. Go on a relaxing sun holiday
When I was younger I got bored doing the same thing on sun holidays, but now that I’m working full-time, and rarely see the sun when it rears its head in Britain, I feel the much-needed warmth on my face and a cocktail in my hand…
5. Take part in a blogging opportunity
Whether thats a sponsored post, a collaboration, going to an event… I want to start working with more people. (If you want to hit me up my gmail is firstname.lastname@example.org!!)
6. Reach 1000 Twitter followers
Currently on 800+ so I think we got this. Might sound silly to some, but it would be cool.
7. Reach 200 WordPess followers
8. Host a giveaway
Keep your eyes peeled for this one… coming soon!
9. Start giving away books and clearing out
I’m hoping to start the practice of re-reading a book and then giving it away to someone, or to a charity shop, so that im not hoarding them any more. I have way too many books…
10. Actually start my scrap book
It’s been about 4 years since I was gifted this gorgeous Paperchase scrapbook from my mum, and I have a huge box full of souvenirs from the past 10 years of my life to fill it up with. I just… never had the chance.
11. Go to the beach
I haven’t been on a beach day in my actual home town in a long, long time. It’s something I want to do every summer but never have the chance to, and this year I can drive, so bring it on!
12. Solo trip
I want to go somewhere new, completely alone. For a day, a weekend, wherever.
13. Buy a high-end makeup product
Like… really high-end. Not just something expensive from Boots. I wanna be reckless and buy something that my face absolutely does not need, but it wants. (Send me suggestions of what my first high-end product should be in the comments).
14. Eat better
I’ve fallen back into some horrifically unhealthy eating patterns and maybe that’s why I’m not feeling so great recently… time to crack out the veggies.
15. Go vegetarian for a week
I’ve tried incorporating vegetarian meals into my daily life, so a meat-free hot lunch at work, and Quorn products for dinner, but I’d love to start making a real difference to my diet and consumption.
16. Go for a massage
I’ve only ever been for a professional massage once before and, as someone who loves getting pampered, it was like my idea of heaven. Definitely treating myself when I get stressed soon.
17. Get into an exercise routine
What I’ve been working with recently…
18. Go on a Colour Run
19. Play Lazer Tag
20. Get another tattoo
And there you go, my 20 Before 20. I will hopefully, this time next year, be checking back in with these to make sure I’ve done all I wanted to do, which would be awesome.
Until then, what do you want to do before you’re 20? Or 30? Should I make these into a series? Let me know!
It’s my birthday!! Shower me with gifts and love! Love me! Kidding. But yeah, I’m 19 today (scary Mary), and I feel old.
Like, I know I’m not old. I’m actually very young. I’ve loads of living left to do. But, like every other entitled and narcissistic millenial, I feel like I have a wealth of experiences to draw on at my young age.
So, here are the 19 things I’ve learned at the ripe old age of 19. You’re welcome.
1. Always Give More Than You Get
Follow this, and you’ll never be in the wrong again. Always give 110%, and you can be sure that when things go downhill, you don’t have to worry about yourself, because you did everything you possibly could
2. Cover Your Arse
Similar to the last point, but honestly will save you so much time and arguments. Just do everything the first time, and make sure you think of everything before charging in.
3. If Possible, Take the High Road
It makes you look better. But, if they really hurt you, aint nothing wrong with getting it off your chest.
4. Don’t Be Petty
It’s ugly. You’re better than that.
5. Drink More Water!!!
6. Worrying About Money Won’t Give You More Money
Unless you are at critical situation, stop worrying about money. You’re so young. What the fuck.
7. Problem? Have a Bath
8. More Problems? Go Outside
Fresh air: it works. Who knew?
9. Laugh At Yourself, and Everyone Else Will Laugh With You
In an awkward or embarrassing situation? Laugh it off. It’ll make everyone else comfortable, and make yourself feel better when they’re laughing with you, rather than at you.
10. Stretch More
11. Change Your Bedding, Do Some Dusting, and Hoover More
A clean environment makes for a clean and healthy mind.
12. Stop Playing Yourself Down To Everyone
You are interesting, you are funny, and you are pretty. I mean it. You know it, so prove it.
13. It’s Better to Be ‘Silly-Funny’ Than ‘Mean-Funny’
14. You Will Never Regret Making More Effort, You Will Only Regret Making Less
15. Stop Thinking Everything Means Something. It Doesn’t.
Sometimes shit happens, and we have to just accept it. It doesn’t have an almighty meaning, and it doesn’t count towards your karma-points. Learn from things, and move on. Stop making meaning when there isn’t any.
16. Stop Thinking Everything You Do Has To Mean Something. It Doesn’t.
You want to eat 3 cheeseburgers in a row? Go for it. You want to get a tattoo of a panda holding a rifle? Why the hell not? You want to write a book about what it’s like to be YOU? Do it. Not everything has to be Big and Meaningful.
17. Remember Your Age
You’re young. Stop thinking like an 80 year old. Do something stupid. Make mistakes. It’s okay.
18. You’re Allowed To Be Sad Sometimes
19. But Being Sad Will Get You Nowhere
Get help. Do things. Make connections. Nothing is worth feeling like it’s the end of the world, but having to smile anyway.
And there you have it. My impartial bits of wisdom that I have selflessly shared with you lot so you don’t make the same mistakes as me. But at the same time, what do I know? A year from now I could be making another one of these posts and say exactly the opposite of everything I’ve just said so… do whatever you want. Or something.
Honestly though, thank you for following me on this little blog for as long as you have, even if you haven’t for very long. I’m still working at this blogging thing (and generally this ‘life’ thing) and doing this makes things a lot more fun and interesting. I look forward to the next year of my life carrying on with this blog and meeting more of you lovely people.
Here’s to the next year (THE LAST ONE OF BEING A TEENAGER).
As stated previously, due to the fact that I am poor, my favourites tend to be seasonal, rather than monthly, like many of my blogging buddies. But that’s okay! It just means they’re meatier and chock full of stuff that I’m going to peer pressure you into buying! (Kidding)
So, here are my 2016-17 Winter Favourites!
Blanket Scarf – Primark
I got this scarf for Christmas and I honestly have worn it every single day since. It’s so cozy and soft, and is perfect for when the heating at work packs up and when I’m too tired to function.
One of these jumpers was featured in my Winter OOTD post from Blogmas 2016, and I actually have three of these. One in black, one mint and one dusky pink and I am obsessed. They are so cheap, easy to wear and style and so comfy for the cold days. I honestly really hope these come back next winter too.
Dressing Gown – Tesco
Another Christmas goodie, this time from Mum. It was her personal mission to find me a new dressing gown that I liked for Christmas (I’m v fussy). And safe to say she did well. This dressing gown is honestly the softest, cosiest thing I’ve ever felt, it fits perfectly and the hood even has little bobble ears on. What more could you possibly ask for?
Once again, a Christmas gifted item. I was absolutely not expecting this one from a family friend, but they did so well with it. A proper review will be coming soon,as I’ve been meaning to write one since Christmas Day, but you’ll already know that it’s a favourite!
I wasn’t into eyeshadow at all until I purchased my Revolution 12 Days of Christmas Box on Black Friday last year, but since then I’ve had a bit of a spend on more drugstore palettes, including this one. The colours are beautiful and blend and match so well and the pigmentation of them is incredible value for money.
Brightside Bubble Bar – LUSH
Yes, I’m still raving about this bloody bubble bar. And yes, I did get three for Christmas (and another for my birthday this week…). What can I say? I’m a citrus lover.
I’ve loved The Maine for about four years now (wow) and even though my emo phase has somewhat passed, this band never will. I’m seeing them live for the second time in a few weeks (March at the Electric Ballroom, Camden) and I couldn’t be more excited, especially for the upcoming album Lovely, Little, Lonely. Everything this band makes makes me happy, and they’re like a warm hug to my emotions.
I discovered this song while listening to The Hannah Witton Show at work, and it just grabbed me, you know? It’s one of those songs that makes me want to dance and sing to in the car and I don’t know. It’s just catchy. Go listen.
I first listened to the Night People single when it was released in the autumn and found it good, but not enough to be really excited. It was only when I found out that YMAS are doing a UK tour (which I am going to!!) in the Spring that I decided maybe I should listen to their latest album. And I honestly love it. Every song is awesome, and YMAS are one of the bands that I think only get better.
What gets me through those long, dark days stuck in the office, you ask? Well, here’s your answer. I got into Hannah’s content after finding her YouTube channel, and resolutely identifying with everything she stands for. When I found out she hosted a podcast/radio show every week that I could listen to FOR FREE, I got even more obsessed. Every one of Hannah’s radio episodes are absolute gold, and you’re never left bored.If you’re a fan of sex jokes, rudeness and familiar YouTube faces, check this out!
So, as some of you may know (and some of you may not) I passed my driving test at the start of December. Yessssssss. Being able to drive my little Edna (my KA) around just us two, blaring the ‘tunes and generally being awesome… it’s a good feeling. And also not having to get lifts all the time is nice.
So there you go, my Winter Favourites. Honestly, the past couple of months have been very up and down, life-wise, and I’m so excited to get into spring as there are some really exciting things coming up.
What were your favourites from over Christmas and New Year, and are any of yours the same as mine? Let me know! And I’ll see you again at the end of the week for a special birthday post! Thanks!
For about the past decade, I’ve suffered with a disorder called Trichotillomania. Here’s the NHS definition if you want to know more about it, and here and here are my past posts about the subject, if you want to know more from the horse’s mouth (or mine. whichever).
I’m not going to spend time explaining the whole thing again, so if you don’t already know, then do some learnin’, then come back to me. If you have any questions about Trich, mental health, or just want to chat, send me a comment.
Until then, here are the Five Unexpected Benefits of Having Trichotillomania…
Hi! I’m back! And better than ever (ish). And better yet, I’m back with a post that might be able to help some of you lot with your resolutions (if you’re still steadfastly running towards them at full speed, of course).
If one of your New Year goals/resolutions was to save money (which is one of mine, and I struggle daily not to spend my money on ridiculous crap like More Blankets and my 47th Pair of Pyjamas or something), then I’m here to help!
1. Create a Savings Account/Method
Simple, but effective. If you’re one of those people that tells yourself “I can keep it in my current account, I promise I wont touch it”, you are wrong, and that is a lie. You will touch that money you were supposed to save, and regret it.
My solution is to, simply, create a savings account. It’s not difficult, and if you connect it up to your current account then transfers can be made easily and quickly with no fuss.
Alternatively, if you’re younger and don’t have a bank account, or access to a savings account, my advice would be to create a place to put your savings that you can’t touch except for emergencies. This reduces the risk of ‘dipping into’ your savings for things that you “need” like more lipstick and another packet of Mini Eggs (of which I am guilty).
Something like a lockable money-box (and giving someone else a key) or even giving your money that you want to save to a parent or guardian to save for you could be foolproof.
2. Save STRAIGHT AWAY
This is something I’ve recently learnt to do, and it is to save your money as soon as you get it. If you get paid at the end of the month, don’t wait until the end of the next month to transfer it over to your savings. I’ve witnessed so many people get to the end of the month, and panic, because they literally have like 12p in the bank, and no way out.
When you get money, put it safely away as soon as you get it. That way, if you run out of money, you can dip into your savings if needed, but then you don’t feel invincible with all this money, that ideally you haven’t got. Then, linking back to the first point, if you put your savings in a secure place that takes time and effort to get into, then you’ll think twice about touching your savings when you really shouldn’t be. (Also, seeing that number in the savings account get high is a REALLY good feeling).
3. Have a Copper Can
This is one of my favourite tips of all time, ever. In 2010, my Dad bought me a money-box. It was really cute and helpful for 12 year old me to put my coins in, but there was a catch: it didn’t open. The only way in, was through the money-in gap, or to smash it open. So I saved. And saved and saved. The only things that went into it were coppers (1 and 2ps) and 5ps.
A few weeks ago, with the money-box full to bursting, I smashed it open with a hammer, and took the proceeds to one of those ‘count-my’change machine. I’d managed to save up around a tenner. Might not seem like much, especially as it was over about 7 years, but to have this little amount constantly growing on my windowsill could be the difference between eating for two weeks for some people. So, before you chuck away that penny, think twice, and put it in a jar.
4. Make a Monthly Budget
Might be obvious, but I never did this. If you know how much you ought to be earning a month on average (e.g. without overtime or extra money coming in), write it down. Then write down your necessary outgoings (so for me, it’s things like car insurance, petrol, my phone contract, etc). This could also include things like your regular outgoings, like gym memberships, or subscription box subscriptions.
This will allow you to see what you need to spend on, what you don’t need to spend on, and then might also help you keep track of your spending.
5. Pack Your Lunch and Drinks
Carry water with you at all times. Put a bottle in your car, and one in your bag (and gym bag!) and keep them full. This will stop you having to buy drinks and bottles when you’re out and about.
If you regularly buy lunch from school, college, or work (or near work), then pack your lunches the night before (you could even get them ready a few days before), to stop you nipping to the shop for biscuits (guilty), or to Subway for lunch.
It might not be great for your ‘healthy eating’ resolution, but even keeping a chocolate bar, packet of crisps or cereal bar in your bag (or car) could be make the difference of spending £1 on something from the shop every day (and think: that could save £365 over the year!)
6. Take Part in Savings Challenges
Little things that you could take part in, along with friends and family who also want to save money this year (or you could even join money-saving and budgeting groups on Facebook and pages on Pinterest for inspiration. These methods are ready-made and fool-proof to helping you save – maybe more – than you could have hoped!
7. Keep Your Receipts
As fiddly and annoying as this one is (annoying especially when your mum constantly tells you to), keep your receipts. Not only will this help remind you of the stupid shit you bought (did you really need that NERF gun?), but it will also help you keep track of where your money is going, and where you may need to excercise more control.
If at the end of the month, you’re sifting through one million and one Starbucks receipts, or ten million receipts with the word ‘CARRIER BAG – O.5p’ on them, then its time to reevaluate your life choices a bit.
Have a special box, tin or drawer, just to keep your receipts in, and go through it every so often (especially if you use cash on the regular! Online bank statements make looking at your expenses easier these days).
And there we go. My top tips for saving money in 2017. I hope they were (somewhat) helpful and that you (maybe) learnt some new tips that you didn’t before. Here’s to saving money in 2017, to make 2018 and the years after even better!
Let me know what your saving goals and resolutions are for this year, and how you’re planning on staying on track. Also let me know if you’d like to see any other money-saving tips and tricks in the comments! Til next time,
I’ve been feeling really… nostalgic lately.Continue reading “Looking Back”
- Went to London on Valentines Day
- Went to the Natural History Museum for the first time
- Went to Prague
- Turned 18
- Went clubbing
- Got a tattoo
- Was a Sandwich Artist
- Read.. a lot
- Blogged a lot
- Went to Athens
- Bought a car
- Learnt to drive
- Passed my driving test!
- Stayed home alone for a week
- Went to Thorpe Park
- Went to FriendsFest
- Got better at makeup
- Visited my Nan and Auntie’s graves
- Passed my A Levels
- Worked in Primark
- Started a savings account
- Started an apprenticeship
- Went to a big client meeting
- Went on a night out with work people
- Went to an industry party
- Met new friends
- Attempted blogmas
- Got rid of the crap in my room
- Had our 5th anniversary
- Bought alcohol
- Took care of the cat on my own
- Went to an engagement party
- Saw The Maine live again
- Saw All Time Low live again
- Saw Twenty One Pilots live
- Cut ties once and for all
- Was the bigger person
- Read all of Harry Potter… twice
- Stopped smoking
- Saw Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them
- Saw Doctor Strange
- Saw Batman Vs Superman
- Saw Suicide Squad
- Saw Captain America: Civil War
- Celebrated New Years Eve in bed, watching How I Met Your Mother
- Watched Friends all the way through about 4 times
- Drove to see my grandparents after not visiting for about 3 years
- Went Christmas shopping with Connor
- Read comic books for the first time
- Tried Quorn mince… and liked it