If you’re part of the online blogging community, you’ll know that, while cool and brilliant and accepting and wonderful, it’s also very… repetitive.
It’s amazing to be able to come online every day and see so many confident, positive people sharing their lives, thoughts, and tips on the internet for the rest of us to revel in, and I will forever be in awe of the fact that so many people across the globe have made this hobby into their own empires. It’s incredible that I can open my web browser and find millions of others’ stories and lives right at my fingertips.
But as much as any of us would love to say this platform is 100% perfect and includes everything and everyone… there’s still a long way to go.
I’m not here to point fingers, not at all. In fact, you could say that I’m part of the problem. Middle class, white, able-bodied, and female… I’m definitely one of the majority. And that’s okay, at least with me. But there are definitely stories out there that aren’t being told. Businesses not being started. Dreams not being fulfilled, because certain groups just aren’t seeing the support they need to see.
Here are the five things I want to see more in the blogging community:
1. I want to see… more POC in the limelight
No matter who you are or who you follow, you can’t deny that blogging is a hugely white-dominated field, like many other professions in the western world. Which really, really sucks. To all the POC bloggers out there who are absolutely killing it, I salute you, because it can’t be easy. Whether you’re blogging about food, beauty, travel, whatever. You keep doing you. And if there are any young POCs out there who want to give it a shot, go for it. Don’t let the fact that 99% of the “Big Bloggers” are white stop you. Because honestly, you’re just as good, and you deserve better.
2. I want to see… more diverse sex-talk and sex-positivity
Honestly, I don’t see a lot of this anywhere in the blogging community, and one day I hope to contribute to this change (once I become brave enough). Until recently, the only really big sex-positive sites around were Cosmo and…. Cosmo. Which is just White Hetrosexual Central, really. And that isn’t good enough.
I want to see gay and lesbian sex-positivity. I want to see bisexual sex-positivity. I want to see trans sex-positivity. I want to see sex-positivity for fat people, and older people, and weird people.
I want anyone who thinks that they’re “too different” to be sexy to find a place online where they can read about people like them having sex. I want to see more people talking about the fact that we should be comfortable and confident in our bodies no matter what they might be, and that your own sexuality, body-type, or personal beliefs does not have to stop you from getting the goss on how to make your partner orgasm. Is that too much to ask?
3. I want to see… more men (oo-er)
You might be able to deny my claims about POC in the blogging community. You might even be able to deny my claims about sex-positivity in the blogging community. But no one (and I mean no one) can deny this: there are not enough male bloggers out there.
And while, yes, it is sometimes nice to have a successful and growing field where men aren’t the main contenders, I can only imagine how alone some of the male bloggers out there may feel, holding up the fort by themselves. Which is why I’d love to see more guys, any guys giving it a go. Whether they’re talking about beauty or travel or literature or sport, anything. No one should be afraid to start a hobby that could change their lives just because no one else is doing it.
4 . I want to see… more diverse interests
We’ve seen beauty, we’ve seen travel, we’ve seen lifestyle, and we’ve seen cooking. Whatr I’m not seeing is sport. And magic. And board games. And whatever the hell else people actually find interesting.
I would love one day for bloggers to be able to expand their comfort zones from the topics that are becoming commonplace, and start talking about their weird side-hobbies that they’ve never really shared. You want to share you cross-stitch? Get it out, girl. You want to talk about your great darts game last night? Go right ahead. You want to write a 5000 word essay on the dynamics of your favourite Dungeons & Dragons forum in all caps? Be my motherfucking guest, friend.
5. I want to see… more privileged women making room for all these people
And finally… the big one.
I can sit here all day and moan at you all out there for not starting your blogging journeys (cringe) sooner, and how you shouldn’t be afraid to blog about who you are or what you love, but that doesn’t make me a good person. It never will. But doing something about it will.
So, to the rest of the majority whom I know are reading this: we have to be the ones to help the others who feel like their voices might not be heard. Offer your blogging advice in your posts, offer your tips and tricks of the trade to any and all who will listen, because you never know who in your audience could be waiting for their moment. If you see a group of people who are blogging in the background, or a subject you think needs addressing: address it. It’s up to those who have the loudest voices currently, to share the microphone.
What do you want to see more of in the blogging community? Write me a comment below, and make sure to share your favourite bloggers who talk about any of these things with me, I’d love to hear more.
‘Til next time,